– DECEMBER –

How to Actually Enjoy the Holidays?

In December, we get stressed with the preparation for the holidays, Christmas gifts and end of year duties. How to transform it to Happiness?
1. Savor the present: Look out for little things to enjoy, focus on what you cherish most, and pay attention to all your senses
2. Listen to yourself and your needs: Take some time alone to rest, feel the stress and letting it all go with a warm invisible shower. Try out to say No or propose a counter-offer. 
3. Set aside that negative voice and search for perfection. You are doing plenty enough, trust yourself. ♥
What is more important in the end that will matter most for you 5 years from now?

Saint Nicholas, Saint Nicolas, Sinterklaas

On the 6th of December, some countries like Belgium, Luxembourg, western Germany, northern France and Hungary are celebrating Saint Nicholas. In the Netherlands, they celebrate Sinterklass on the St. Nicholas’ Eve. Saint Nicholas was the patron saint of children and known for his generosity and miracles. Now that I live in Switzerland, I realize that I miss that funny tradition of Sinterklass and the Zwarte Pete coming to town, throwing pepernoten in the office, and receiving a chocolate letter. In Dutch families, children would receive their gifts at Sinterklass rather than at Christmas. 

What do you celebrate in your country?

Introspection, Retrospective & Contemplation

December is the perfect month to check within, see what we’ve accomplished and design what we wish for the new year. To do so, first, find a quiet place and allow yourself to be undisturbed. Then, take deep breaths, count your toes and ask yourself: Looking back at 2022, what do I want to celebrate myself for? And how? What would I do differently if anything? Of what do I want more in 2023? What qualities do I want to develop in 2023? What do I want to leave behind? What’s my secret wish for 2023? Finally, choose one word to take with you and represent your new year.
You’re ready!  
If not, don’t worry, book a call with me and I’ll support you.

The Pleaser

How fitting to present the PLEASER for this month! 
All Pleasers in the room struggling to find the perfect gift, please stand up! This Saboteur tries to gain acceptance and affection, by overly helping and pleasing others. Although it’s beautiful to be there for others, when it’s taken too far, you then forget your own needs, get disappointed, and become resentful.

Challenge of the month: Practice receiving! Consider it a gift you give to others to accept the gift they offer you. Read that again 🙂
In time and with practice, you’ll learn to listen more for what you need, and then to ask for it. By boosting your Mental Fitness, you’ll develop your Empathize Power towards yourself for unconditional self-love. 

Happy Holidays!

Looking back on this busy year 2022, I am very grateful to have created memories with you. Thank you for being part of my life, helping me become the person I am today and supporting my mission to help people live happier lives. I wouldn’t have done it without you.
♥
I wish you all the very best for the new year and the many more to come. May you stay healthy, of mind and body, confident and happy. May you cherish each little precious moment in life. I’m looking forward to going on new adventures together in 2023!
♥
You are unique, you are beautiful, you are enough.
Take good care, Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year!

The Power Of Awe

In November, we often feel down as winter is coming, days are greyer and we stress about the end year celebrations and family reunions. To balance it out, let’s try to focus on the positive. Scientists have studied the power of awe, the “wow” effect.  Looking for awesomeness in your daily life has direct positive effects on your mood, on your Happiness. This can also have good health benefits, such as lower inflammations. By training the positive side of your brain, you experience more positive emotions, which improves your performance, creativity, empathy. You even feel more connected to others and to life in general. How will you bring more awe in your life today?

Mental Fitness Workshop

In October and November, I have facilitated my flagship “Mental Fitness for Happiness” workshop at the Department of Bio-Medicine of the University of Basel. It was such an honor to share my insights on Positive Intelligence, and let them discover their Saboteurs and bring on the power of the Sage. Thank you to all the participants and for your great feedback! Simona says it’s “informative and practically helpful to change our way of approaching negative thoughts” and Mirela adds it’s “a very reflective group exercise about struggles that we all have”. Do you and your team feel in constant stress and in a negative vortex? Message me if you want your team to experience that shift too! 
Photo by Natacha Jenny natjenny79.myportfolio.com

Dios Los Muertos

This special day, called “The Day of the Dead”, is celebrated on November 1st and 2nd, widely in Mexico, in honor of the dead. It is a beautiful and light-hearted opportunity to remember, pay respects and celebrate all the loved ones who passed away. Families build impressive colorful altars with flowers, decorated sculls, foods, memorabilia and photos. Houses, courtyards and trees are decorated with flowers, ribbons and picturesque skeletons. Many people wear incredible makeup and extravagant costumes. This unique tradition is even listed as Intangible Cultural Heritage of Humanity by UNESCO. How do you honor your lost loved ones?

The Hyper-Vigilent

This month, we take a look at the HYPER-VIGILENT!
When you have a prominent Hyper-Vigilent Saboteur, you think you can protect yourself and your loved ones. But the Saboteur creates the opposite it promises, so you are always on the look out and running anxious all the time. In the end, you are so exhausted that you lose your clear-headed focus and get less vigilent.

Challenge of the month: Expose the lie of the Saboteur and realize that safety and security can only found within. Through PQ reps you learn to internally feel more safe and secure. How can you apply the Sage Perspective and find how to convert “bad” outcomes into gifts?

My THANKSgiving Gift

In November, Thanksgiving is celebrated, mostly in the USA, as a traditional moment to express gratitude and give meaningful thanks. Beyond the commercial aspects of Black Friday, Cyber Monday and such, there is a sense of recognition of the other and will to give back. In this mindset, I am excited to participate in a BIG way!

♥ Until November 28th, I offer my 6-month program at 400chf OFF! ♥ for new coachees
& loyal coachees referrals (refer someone and you both receive a 400chf voucher)

Don’t miss that unique opportunity! Quickly book a free introduction call with me and mention the code “Gobble Gobble“!

Mental Health Matters

October 10th marks the World Mental Health Day. The theme is set by the World Federation for Mental Health. For this year it was ‘Make mental health and wellbeing for all a global priority’.
Raising awareness about Mental Health enables it to be treated equally with Physical Health. The purpose is to reduce risks, ensure prevention and provide appropriate support. Coaching helps increase self-awareness, define healthy boundaries, refocus on yourself, your priorities and what makes you truly happy and fulfilled. For more info, check wmhdofficial

How To Say No Without Guilt

Imagine this… Someone you care about is asking you to do something you can do, but not in the things you want to do. What do you do? If you hesitate but still say “Yes”, as you don’t want to let them down and “it’s just gonna take a minute”, you are a Pleaser! Here is 1 tip to help you say “No” without feeling extra guilty. Remember that you always have the choice to say “Yes”, “No” or “Counteroffer”. Next time this happens, try out “Yes but not now”, or “Yes but not all of it”. How does that sound? Feeling relaxed already?

Pink Ribbon’s Month

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. It’s an annual and international health campaign to increase awareness and raise funds for research. It was founded in the USA in 1985 by the American Cancer Society and Imperial Chemical Industries. The pink ribbon symbole was established in 1993. It is a great opportunity to encourage breast screening, learn how to support those in needs and celebrate all breath cancer survivors. Many initiatives are organized, such as races, art exhibitions and many sales with donations.

The Hyper-Rational

It’s the HYPER-RATIONAL‘s turn! 
People with a strong Hyper-Rational Saboteur are capable of deep analysis and rational understanding. However, too much of rationality comes at the cost of relationships, emotional intelligence, empathy and vulnerability as they can be perceived as cold, distant or arrogant. It can also make them feel alone and not understood, with a need to shut out all  intrusions to be more focused. 
Challenge of the month: Realize when you feel frustrated with others’ emotions or lack of rational. See what it limits in the depth of your relationships.
How could you use more wisdom, feelings and empathy in these situations? What would change then? In the end, would you rather be right or happy ? 

Why Facing Your Fears?

We know that Halloween is coming at the end of the month… but did you know, there are ONLY 10 WEEKS left before the end of the year?! Well, that’s scary.
What have you achieved so far? What else do you dream for yourself?
A new job for next year? A peaceful Christmas family reunion? Finally getting some me-time off? Getting rid of that toxic stress and anxiety once and for all?
In just 8 sessions with me, you’ll find the self-confidence to let go of your fears and the self-sabotage that is weighing you down. You’ll regain the focus and the peace-of-mind you need to finally make that dream come true.
If that resonates with you, don’t be spooked and simply book a free introduction call with me!

What Did I Do To Deserve This?

Do you ever feel frustrated or hurt when someone tells you something you disagree with? Do you sometimes get disappointed by the feedback you receive (or the lack of it)? Often people pleasers give a lot with great generosity, and tend to expect the same feedback. Detaching from ego can help free ourselves from the autogenerated self-doubt. People can actually be upset for other reasons than us. How would it be if you would react to the situation without blaming yourself? What would be different then?

Farewell Her Majesty The Queen

On top of the many political topics happening around the world lately, we have been deeply affected by the loss of Her Majesty The Queen on September 8th. It marked the end of a 70-year reign. Her reign spanned 15 prime ministers starting with Winston Churchill, born in 1874, and including Ms Truss, born 101 years later in 1975. It is beautiful to witness human beings sharing compassion and support, even without feeling the same degree of emotion or commemoration. 
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The Cloud with a Silver Lining

Many of us were happy to welcome some rain in September. However, when the rainy days are long it feel like it will never stop. In life, it’s natural that some days seem grayer and sadder than others. It’s also ok to feel a bit more down. It matters most is to be conscious of what is happening in our bodies, energy and mood, as well as in our thoughts. What physical sensations am I feeling right now? What are my recurring thoughts? And overall, we must remember that in every cloud, there is a silver lining.

The Hyper-Achiever

This month, we meet the HYPER-ACHIEVER. This saboteur is quite common, when we’ve been overly challenged by our parents or peers to succeed at school, at work and in life. The Hyper-Achiever makes us measure our self-worth through our achievements. There should be no peace or happiness until the next success, and the next, and the next… so we can lose touch on what really matters.
Challenge of the month: Realize when your happiness depends on your achievements, when your Saboteur says “You’ll be happy when…”. Reflect on the impact of depending on others’ approval. List what topics are causing you the most stress. How can you do them with passion and commitment, but no matter the outcomes? What would be different ?

5 Steps to Boost Confidence

Do you overthink easily?
Are you trying to achieve something important but it’s too stressful? Are you getting frustrated for not doing what you really want to do?
I’m happy to show you 5 simple steps to help you stop overthinking and move into action. It will help you boost your self-confidence and defuse the negative emotions that have been built up. Here you go:
1. Identify your fears
2. Breathe it out
3. Bring compassion
4. Visualize your success
5. Move into easy action
Which of these steps is the most difficult one for you?
If you want to know more, check out my latest INSTAGRAM posts for more detail, or just book a free introduction call with me!

Sleep against Stress

What do you do when you’re deeply exhausted, stressed or about to burnout? We often tend to say: “I need to do this”, “I shouldn’t do that”… This actually creates more pressure and drains even more of your little energy. The key is to quit pushing and blaming yourself. Instead, slow down and rest. To rebuild your resilience, the first step is to get enough sleep. Taking care of your physical health also supports your mental health. With more mental space, you’ll slowly move into what you want. How much are you sleeping lately?

Happy Birthday Switzerland!

The Swiss National Day is proudly celebrated on August 1st. The date refers to a historic alliance concluded in 1291 by the three cantons of Uri, Schwyz and Unterwalden. It resulted in the founding of the Swiss Confederation. We can wish Switzerland a Happy 731st Birthday! This day became a public holiday throughout Switzerland in 1993, after it was voted by referendum. The locals enjoy political speeches, bonfires, fireworks, but most importantly, lots of food, drinks and music in a festive atmosphere.

The Moon is Super

On August 11th, we could observe the last Super-Full-Moon of 2022. A Supermoon happens when the Moon is at its closest to Earth. This time, the Moon was only 360’000 km away! It can also appear up to 13% bigger and 30% brighter. Symbolically, the full Moon represents the highest energy and the learning of new things. Are you open to receive Super insights this month? Take the opportunity now, because the next Supermoon will happen on August 1st 2023, and the next time it will be that close will only be in 2034…

The Controller

This month, let’s meet the CONTROLLER. This saboteur has a powerful energy and can get things done. But it’s an anxiety-based need to take charge and control situations. It makes you believe that you’re either in control or out of control, and that you’re doing others a favor by controlling everything. Even if you can get results this way, you usually end up feeling impatient, angry, resentful and even rejected.
Challenge of the month: Realize when you get impatient at others, or when you push to get things done your own way. Thank your Controller for wanting things to progress and ask him to come back later. From a place of compassion and curiosity, ask yourself how others could feel in the moment and what really matters most. What could you do differently?

How does Coaching work?

My Coaching is a mix between Co-Active Coaching, Positive Intelligence and Mindfulness. You come to me with a problem, a frustration, something you feel stressed about. You know something needs to change even if you don’t know why or how. During a session, Co-Active help us connect to you as a whole person, naturally resourceful. What are the emotional, physical and energetical impacts? Positive Intelligence helps explore your Saboteurs’ lies and limiting beliefs. With Mindfulness exercices, you access your Sage, your Leader Within. Who do you really want to Be? What matters the most? Only then, you access new parts of your brain, and see new perspectives. You finally find motivating steps to take towards your goals. 
Want to give this magic a try?